MM: Marriage Monday {How to Find God’s Will For Your Marriage}

When Ruben and I were planning our future we saw it clearly, but sadly we were not seeing what God was seeing for us. 

Our ambitions were selfish and methodical. 

Like many, we had a plan. 

We were on a road to becoming elementary school teachers. My husband was specializing in Bilingual education and I was specializing in Early childhood and were already selected for the Teacher Preparation Block Program at Arizona State University. 

Those days” are what we called our Hell Days, because deep down we were running away from what the Lord had called us to do.

Ruben and I worked so hard during long nights of writing reports only to never sleep then go to work and do it all over again. Some weeks went by where we never slept, and when we did, it was hibernation season for the both of us.

At this time, we were newlyweds, married only a few months.  As semesters went on, the pressure on our shoulders weighed heavy. 

We tried to enjoy our new marriage, but college took priority. We weren’t going to church at this time.  There was no time.  We were doing nothing for the Lord’s kingdom purposes, yet we believed that someday we would. . . on our time. 

Our plan was that after we graduated and after we had our teaching careers and after we had our new home, and after we had our new car, then we would work for God and do what He had called us to do. Only then. 

 Someday I’m gonna, someday I will.  

You see, Ruben and I had plans for a future. You know? The American Dream.  We had a “do better than our parents did” mentality.  

We were going to be the first ones in our families to earn a college degree. Our dreams of becoming a living success were going to come true.  That’s what I thought.  

Finally it hit!  

During a night class, a sense of dissatisfaction came over me. We were sitting in groups and as I looked across the room and saw Ruben in his group, I said to myself, “what am I doing here?”.   

For an instant I felt like a fish out of cold water. A feeling of repentance came over me and I jumped up and ran out of the room. As I approached the hall all I could do was fall to the floor and scream. 

Tears were flooding my eyes and Holy Spirit was speaking to me, “YOU both are not following my will for your lives!”. 

As I talked out loud to Jesus, on that university corridor floor, on my knees,  I knew I was desperate. 

It was either going to go two ways.  I would have a nervous break down OR my entire life would be changed. 

I surrendered as I screamed out, “If I’m not suppose to be here, then where am I suppose to be? Show me Lord!”.   

I heard no answer. 

I felt someone grab my arm.  It was Ruben. “What is wrong with you!” he said with this deep look of concern on his face.  I said, “I don’t know”.   He was so confused by my crazy behavior, as he helped me up off the floor and said, “we’re leaving!”. 

When I heard those words, a funny sense of calm peace came over me.   As we slowly walked out of the corridor and walked off the campus I was so relieved.  

Later that evening, deep down, the words of Holy Spirit lingered.  It was the turning point in our marriage.  A time of sweet surrender.  

How many times do we surrender our marriage to God’s will?  

Over and over again.  

God’s will for marriage is perfect.  

I have realized the Lord does have a plan and purpose for the marriage covenant. 

It’s a beautiful plan.  An expressive plan of His craftsmanship.  

Two becoming one flesh for His kingdom purposes. 

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 tells us:  

Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor.  For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.  Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone?  And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart.

A powerful thing you can do as a married couple is surrender your will to the Lord! 

Ask God what He wants you to do together.   Become a “Power Couple” and say “Here we are Lord, not our will, but YOUR will be done in our marriage”.  

Make time to follow His will today.  

Don’t allow the foolish things of this world to take priority over following God’s will for your life.  It’s not worth it.  

Surrender your marriage to Jesus, His way is perfect. 

Blessings and Shalom, 

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15 Things My Parent’s Taught Me About Marriage

This weekend my family had a blessed time celebrating my parent’s 50th wedding anniversary.  Let me take you down memory lane. The year was 1963.  It was a beautiful autumn day in November, fifty years ago.  My parents vowed their love to each other and began the unknown journey of love and marriage.  I can picture them so young, living in a time that was springing forth growth.  Come on, it was the sixties.  Hello?  To think that my parents have lived to see this day, let alone persevered to stay married.  Yes.  Stay married.  It’s a true blessing.  A rare find.  

It is very rare to find married couples who are even married 15 or 20 years in this day where marriage is just a word.  Many young people in their twenties today are finding that they don’t want to marry because they have seen the deterioration of marriage all around them.  It’s very sad.  The lie of the enemy, Satan is telling many that marriage does not last.  Well, in my parent’s case, it does.  My husband’s parents marriage also lasted.  They were married for 61 years!  Wow!  Our children need to see examples of married couples like these who have committed to making a covenant last.  

Now, I’m not saying anything to ruffle your feathers if divorce has been part of your life or in your family.  I understand all situations are sensitive and different.  I write this post in as much love yet with much boldness and conviction.  I am just saying that marriage in God’s eyes means so much more!  It’s a covenant for life.

How does a marriage lasts forever?

God loves marriage.  His vision of marriage is described in the Bible and used in comparison to our relationship with Jesus.  We are like a beautiful bride waiting for our King to come back for us.  I love that lovely image.  

Marriage takes work and commitment.  It was created for growth.  Marriage is like a tiny seed that needs to be watered and cultivated in order for fruit to be established.  

Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, Moreover, an attacker may defeat someone who is alone, but two can resist him; and a three-stranded cord is not easily broken.
The three-stranded cord can be a symbol of a marriage with God holding it together.  God the Father, Husband, and Wife all together is like a strong three-stranded cord.   When you take away a cord and only have two strands, the rope is not strong enough to hold anything. 
God has to be the center of all marriages.  

My parents were not Christians until 30 years into their marriage.  My siblings and I did not grow up seeing a healthy marriage with Jesus in the center let alone in our home.  However, I had to learn along with my husband what it meant to have Jesus Lord over our lives and marriage.   The best part was when our parents decided to follow Jesus and make Him Lord of their lives. Through the years, good times and bad.  

“When Jesus resides in the home, love is there.  
When Jesus is welcome into a marriage, love is there.”  – Rosenda V

It’s time to enjoy the ride married couples!  Marriage is like a ferris wheel.  You go up and down.  It’s fun, it’s exhilarating, but soon the ride is over before you know it.  The years go by so quickly and soon one day, as you look deeply into your spouses eyes, you both realize you’ve grown old together.   

Those petty things you argued about in the past,  pet-peeves, silly and selfish things.  At that moment, we don’t think about that.  All we see is our love.  

As I was thinking about this post, I wanted to also share some words of wisdom about marriage.  I put together a list of what I’ve learned as a daughter of parents who have been married 50 years!

The 15 Things I’ve Learned From My Parent’s Marriage of 50 Years!

 1.   Invite God to be the center of your marriage and keep Him there.

 2.   The wedding is one day, but marriage is a lifetime.

 3.   Never Quit- when times get tough, deal with them and work them out.

 4.   Beauty and youth fade away, but love grows.

 5.   Marriage is a covenant and a final decision.  
       There are no other options- it’s all or nothing baby!

 6.   Children are a blessing, yet they will leave one day.  
        Keep the marriage priority at all times.

 7.   Time flies by so fast, enjoy your spouse while it lasts.

 8.   Husbands love your wives and Wives submit to your husbands.

 9.   Prayer is the key to keeping the marriage covered and protected.  Pray for your spouse.

10.  Love your spouse through mountain high or valley low.

11.  Invest in your marriage-the grass is not greener on the other side. . . 
       water your own grass.

12.  Date night!  Married couples need time to themselves.

13.  Dream together, pray together, trust the Lord together.

14.  Use trials to grow closer together, not farther apart.

15.  Forgive, kiss and make-up always.  No excuses.

. . . Overall, it was a true blessing to see my parents celebrate 50 years of marriage together. We are so thankful for what the Lord has done in our family. Our Mom and Dad have been there for all of us and many others. They continue to give of themselves over and over again. They have such hearts of Gold. Praise Be to God!   Happy Golden Anniversary Mom and Dad. 

Blessings and Shalom,

How do you keep God the center of your marriage?