MM: Marriage Monday {How to Love Your Husband God’s Way}

Can we be honest today?  

Let’s talk about Love and marriage.  

The world tells us to “love yourself”.  Be better than others. 

The world asks, “What have you done for me lately?”. 

Sometimes in your marriage, you may find yourself asking this same question to your husband?  

Have you taken out the trash? 
Have you listened to me? 
Have you helped me with the kids today? 
Have you? . . . you get the picture.  

A marriage built on the world’s definition of love will fail.  

Yet, on our marriage journey, we can become so consumed with the things of this world, the day to day grind.  Issues, drama, life, marriage.  We can easily invite ourselves to the pity party and stay there a very long time.   That’s a party you don’t want to attend and if you are there, it’s time to leave.  

1 Corinthians 13: 4 tells us, 
Love is patient and kind, not jealous, not boastful, 

To love your husband more than yourself is a big request when you have a “me” mentality. However, humility is the key to opening your heart to love your husband more than yourself.   

During the early years of my marriage, I found that when my husband asked me to do something for him, or he failed to do something for me, I became impatient and unkind.   The tears flowed down my cheeks and before I knew it, we were yelling at each other.  Our relationship had become like a competition.  We acted like we were enemies on opposite teams.   My heart slowly grew bitter.  I couldn’t understand.  I used to be such a sweet person?  

You see, in the beginning, I had set myself up for failure.  Going into the marriage, I had great expectations.  I thought our marriage was immune to disappointment.  I based our relationship on conditions.  

I knew deep down, I loved my husband, yet my passion to serve him lacked.  

I needed a heart change.  I needed a servant’s heart.  

The Bible tells us that, greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. (John 15:13).   Laying down my life for my husband?  I knew I couldn’t do this on my own.  I needed the power of the Holy Spirit to work through me.   I started by asking forgiveness to God and Ruben.   I began to respond to Ruben’s requests in a humble and loving manner.   I thought, before I spoke.  

One of the attributes of the Proverbs 31 woman is kindness and it is on her tongue.  

Proverbs 31: 26 
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; And the law of kindness is on her tongue.

I made a decision.  I chose to love Ruben no matter what.  I changed my thoughts and attitude.  My actions changed and I changed.  My passion to serve Ruben began to grow and my desire to have a servant’s heart became bigger than me.  

A Servant’s Heart gives, but a worldly heart takes away.  

Having a servant’s heart is being like our Lord Jesus, for He gave His life for a dying world. He gave His life for a self-centered and self-righteous world. 

He gave His life for a selfish and self-righteous wife.  Yup, sometimes, I’m that girl.  

Can you imagine our Father God asking us, “What have you done for me lately?”.  

He has every right to ask, yet he doesn’t.  

Instead, He loves us with an unconditional love.  

The Bible describes this love as agape love and the word in Hebrew is called, hesed.  Love that is kind and faithful.  Eternal and Enduring.  –Undeserved Love.  

Kindness and faithful love (hesed) pursue me every day of my life.  I make my home in the house of Yahweh for all time to come.  
Psalm 23:6

Now, let’s look at 1 Corinthians 13: 4 again.  This time, applying it to your marriage and making it a declaration:  

-My Love for my husband is patient.   
I am patient toward my husband as God is patient toward me. 

-My Love for my husband is kind.  
I am kind to my husband as God is kind toward me.  

-My Love for my husband is not jealous and not boastful.   

As a daughter of the King, I want to be in the presence of God’s hesed-love every day of my life.  

I desire to give out-hesed.  

I want hesed-love overflowing from my heart to pour out on my husband.  

I want to love my husband as my Heavenly Father loves me- God’s way! 

Heart Check:  What are some ways you can show love (hesed) to your husband today? .  

Blessings and Shalom

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My Messy Beautiful Love Review and Giveaway!

  In my last Marriage Monday post I wrote about how marriage can get messy, but it’s through God’s grace that marriage is beautiful.   I’ve been reading Darlene Schacht’ new book, Messy Beautiful Love and honestly, I can’t tell you enough how this book is anointed to nourish and save marriages.  Including my own.   To be honest, this is the first book of Darlene’s that I was blessed to read.  I’ve read her posts from her Time Warp Wife blog, but reading a book like this is exhilarating, humbling and empowering.  

Oh my, I was definitely challenged. This isn’t your average Christian marriage book that gives you a cookie cutter outline or even a “everything’s coming up roses in your marriage” thesis. 

Messy Beautiful Love is raw in all it’s gentleness.  Sincere in all it’s flaws.  Real.  As real as real gets ladies.  

Marriage enrichment is a key to growing a Godly marriage.
On my marriage journey, I have learned, that you never arrive in your relationship.  Just when you think you have a great marriage, well . . . watch out.  Just when you think you’ve learned all you need to know about marriage enrichment, don’t stop.   Just when you think you’ve been to enough marriage conferences, read enough marriage books to open your own bookstore . . . you haven’t done enough.  

Growing a Godly marriage is an ongoing process.  You can never outgrow or never learn too much.    Never say never.  🙂 Darlene’s heart felt story of her own marriage journey intertwined with Biblical truths challenged me to be a better wife.   

A God-fearing wife.  A wife that may not have it all together, but with God’s love, I can.  

A Forgiven wife.   Because God’s grace is sufficient for me. It’s never too late.  

My Husband’s Bride.  I shine bright in my husband’s eyes, when He sees Jesus in me.   

Messy Beautiful Love has challenged me to walk in humility.  Submitting to God as I submit to my husband.  It may not be easy, yet I want to please God first.  Through Christ,  I can do anything.     

Thank you Darlene for following God’s call and mission for sharing your story.  I know now, that I am not alone.  I believe and pray that many women’s hearts will be healed and marriages changed when they read this book, all for the glory of God! 

Women in the Word, we will be doing a book study on Messy Beautiful Love in the future, so this is a great time to purchase your book and study guide.  

Official Launch Day is here! 
It’s been a fun countdown, but today is the day!  Messy Beautiful Love is available to purchase now!  If you haven’t ordered your copy yet, you can order it here.   It’s so worth it ladies!  Don’t wait.  

Messy Beautiful Love Giveaway
The journey of being on Darlene’s book launch team has truly been a blessing.  As a thank you, Darlene wants to bless one of my Little Pink Casa readers with a free paperback copy of Messy Beautiful Love:  Hope and Redemption for Real-Life Marriages.   Can you just stand it?!  Ok, jump and down!

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You can enter the giveaway here: 
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Blessings and Shalom, 

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MM: Marriage Monday {The Journey of a Messy Beautiful Love}

Happy Monday! 

Today on Marriage Monday, I am sharing a special announcement with you that’s so exciting,  I just can’t keep it to myself!  First, I begin with this. . . 
As you know, I have a heart for encouraging you to cultivate a Christ-centered marriage.  My heart is to save marriages.   I deeply believe that when God is the center of your marriage,  no matter what comes your way, you can go through it.  Even when marriage gets messy.  

Throughout my marriage journey, Ruben and I have seen the Lord restore our love and hope during the messy times in our lives.  Yes, there were times in my marriage journey when I was broken.  I thought all hope was gone.  Perfection lost. 

Yet, the Lord restored and covered us with His tender love and mercy.  He brought healing to our hearts through His Word and many times through desperate prayer.   He bound up our wounds (Psalm 147: 3) 

Picking up the broken pieces can be painful, tender, and beautiful.  Yes, beautiful! 

As the Lord purifies the marriage, He cleans up the broken pieces.  He throws them away.  Never to be remembered.  He restores a new beautiful kind of love.  A new vision, a new masterpiece.  

God is a God of redeeming grace.  Even in your marriage.  No matter where you are in your marriage journey, God’s LOVE never fails.  Jesus will make new again, what is broken.  

No matter what . . . there will be hard times, broken times and messy times in your marriage.  I’m being honest.  Marriage takes hard work, God’s way.  I really wish I could go back and start from the beginning with everything I’ve learned.  I wish somebody would have mentored me or showed me how to prepare for the journey of mistakes and messiness ahead.  

We can’t go back, but we can start from here.  We can go forward.  

As I moved forward, I found a precious mentor and Sister in Christ,  Darlene Schacht otherwise known as the Time-Warp Wife.  Have you heard of her?  I love Darlene’s writing, because her transparency and wisdom shine through in her blog and her books like The Virtuous Life of a Christ-Centered Wife and The Good Wife’s Guide.  She is also Co-Author along with Candace Cameron Bure of a New York Times best-selling book, Reshaping It All.  Her ministry is truly built from walking through the fire and coming out as an overcomer!  I so get her. 

Now, for the Big Announcement!  
Last week,  I was chosen to be on Darlene’s launch team for her newest book, Messy Beautiful Love:  Hope and Redemption for Real-Life Marriages.   Yay!! I’m so honored, humbled and excited.  It is a book about how marriage will have its share of messes, but despite what the world says, we need to surrender our marriage to God when things get tough and be obedient to Him.  

So far, this book has ministered to my inner-most heart, tears and all.  I can’t put it down!   I’m so excited that I’m definitely planning to include Messy Beautiful Love as a Book study for our Women in the Word Live this Fall.  Can you get excited about that?  

I will be posting a book review soon, but if you are excited to pre-order the book, click here 

For those who pre-order, you will receive over $50 in freebies and believe me you will love them!  I’m so enjoying mine. 🙂 

Once you order, Provide them with your receipt/order confirmation number along with the number of books you purchased.  Soon after, your freebies will arrive in your email box.  Be patient as it might take a couple of days.  The wait is worth it

Check out the Launch giveaway:  This week, the giveaway is a KitchenAid 5 QT Mixer in Aqua Sky Blue.   The giveaway page:

You can also download a free chapter here.  

I can’t wait to share more with you, it’s gonna be beautiful! 🙂

Blessings and Shalom, 

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MM: Marriage Monday {Reflections from a Thankful Wife}

Here we are together in the beginning.

As a brand new 18 year old college student, I walked into a English 101 classroom, not knowing I’d find my future husband waiting to meet me on that day. I literally walked into my destiny that evening. 

Before then, I had my life all figured out. Of course, I did.  I knew exactly how my life was going to go. 

I would graduate college, get married at 30 and start a family at 35. 

I’d travel more, finish writing my books, go to Paris to become a fashion model. 

I had so much in my own head, BUT GOD! 

THAT night, when I met a gentleman named Ruben, I realized that God had a plan for my life, better than I could ever imagine. 

After 6 months of getting to know each other in class, my husband introduced me to a man better than himself.  He introduced me to my true love, Jesus. 

I can honestly say that my husband had my best interest at heart. He wanted me to have what he had, God’s love and forgiveness. I am so truly thankful over and over again everyday that my husband never stopped believing in me, never gave up on me, never stopped praying for me and never stopped loving me.  

Because of him, I am a daughter of the King and we can truly be together forever in eternity. 

Yes, a Real Man will lead his lady closer to God. 

Here we are now after 21 years since we first met.

1 Thessalonians 5:17-18 
Pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.  

Today for Marriage Monday, I challenge you to pick one thing you are thankful for when it comes to your husband?  

Then, tell him.  

Thank the Lord for your husband.  Praise Him! 

Yup, it’s simple, yet it will mean the world to him. 

Blessings and Shalom

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MM: Marriage Monday {10 Ways to Grow a Godly Marriage}

Can we talk about love and marriage today? 

It is Marriage Monday on the blog and I was excited to share 10 ways to Grow a Godly Marriage with you.  

How do you grow in your marriage? 

Simply, by sowing seeds of love, faith and hope into your husband’s life every day. 

I always like to refer back to the fruits of the Spirit for inspiration.  

Galatians 5: 22-23 tells us: 

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience,kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

I once heard that a wife is like a flower. 

She is gentle and needs to be loved, provided for and nurtured. 

She must be handled with the utmost care and tenderness. 

If her husband holds her too tight, her petals will crush. 

If her husband holds her too loose, she will wilt too early from no support. 

But, if her husband holds her with dear life.  Then, he places her in a vase and waters her every day, then she will bloom.  

She will light up the room with her beauty.  

For all the world to see. 

– Rosenda Valenzuela 

This week take one of these ten ways and challenge yourself to grow in that area.  

Also, ask your husband to choose one to work on.  How fun will that be?!

I personally will work on praying for my husband and we will work on reading the Bible together.  

Which one will you choose?  

Did you know that I have many other resources for marriage enrichment? 

Here are some topics that you can glean from on the blog: 

Keeping God the Power Source in Your Marriage

Speaking Life Over Your Marriage 

A Couple that Prays Together, Stays Together 

Finding Mercy in Your Marriage 

How to Find God’s Will For Your Marriage

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Now, if you are new to my blog, Welcome to Marriage Monday! 

Here’s to a fabulous abundantly over the top blessed week!  
Blessings and Shalom, 

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MM: Marriage Monday {Speaking Life Over Your Marriage}

Does your marriage need a resurrection?  This week on Marriage Monday at the Little Pink Casa, learn how the principle of decree can bring your marriage back to life.  Grab your Bible!  This is gonna be life changing for your marriage.  

be empowered. . . 

No matter where you are on your marriage journey, there comes a time when the sizzle may begin to fizzle.   Emergency!  Is there a marriage doctor in the house?  We need a resurrection here! 

In the beginning, as newlyweds, we are so full of life and excitement.   We want to give attention to our spouse everyday with intention to build a great marriage.  It’s like walking on the clouds! 

Reality sets in and soon we are influenced by the demands of life like parenting and work which can cause us to get distracted.  Our focus is no longer building a better marriage, but on other things that are constantly fighting for our attention.  

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Did you know your marriage is like a beautiful river?

A river must remain flowing in order for the water to sustain life.
When a body of water stops flowing, it becomes stagnant.  Stagnant water is dead water. 
Nothing can live in dead water.  The fish die.  The plants can’t survive.  Everything depends on the water source.  Stop a river from flowing and you got disaster.  

Did you know what you focus on becomes your habit? 

Focusing on building a living marriage is found only in Jesus.   He’s the only One who can give you the living water to keep your marriage flowing.  

Now on the last day, the great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out, saying, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. Whoever believes in me, as Scripture has said, rivers of living water will flow from within them.   John 7: 37-38 

But whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”  John 4: 14

Don’t complicate this ladies.  The focus is clear and simple.  

 Jesus said, for his yoke is easy and His burden is light. 

Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. “Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS “For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”  Matthew 11: 28 -30. 

Also, Jesus was bruised, wounded and pierced for your healing.  That includes the healing and restoration of your marriage.  Praise God!  

But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed.  Isaiah 53: 5

So how do you resurrect your marriage and keep your marriage alive? 

1. Decree

Job 22:28 says, “You will also decree a thing, and it will be established for you.  

A decree is an official order issued by a legal authority.   In Jesus Name you have the legal authority to order your marriage to get aligned with the Word of God!  You must decree life over your marriage.  No matter what the situation looks like, speak life!  

Jesus says, “The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly”.   John 10:10 

James 1: 21 says, “Receive with meekness the engrafted Word which is able to save your souls. 

2. Store up the Word of God in your heart.

As the little squirrel stores up nuts in preparation for a long winter.  You must store up the Word of God in your heart and be ready at all times.  

Proclaim the Word of God over your marriage. 
-That your house shall serve the Lord.  

Proclaim healing over your marriage.  
-That God is working a miracle over you and your spouse. 

Declare life over your marriage! 
Your marriage shall live and not die, says the Lord!  

I will not die but live, and will proclaim what the LORD has done.  Psalm 118: 17 

Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me will live, even though they die; and everyone who lives and believes in Me will never die.  John 11:25-26

Have faith my friend and take courage.  

Be empowered today to pray and decree life over your marriage.  

It’s never too late and it’s never too early!  

I hope you have been encouraged by today’s devotional.  If you would like prayer for your marriage or anything, please email me here for my husband and I would love to pray for you.   

Also, if you have been empowered by today’s teaching, please comment below and let me know what you think? 

What are some other marriage topics you’d like to see on the blog? 

What can I write about that will help you? 

Simply, comment below or email me here and consider it done!   I read all the responses.  

Blessings and Shalom to you, 

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MM: Marriage Monday {Keeping God the Power Source in Your Marriage}

This week on Marriage Monday at the Little Pink Casa, I got the inside scoop on how to charge your marriage with the power of God!  Grab your Bible.  This is gonna be awesome so share this devotional with a girlfriend! 

enjoy. . . 

Have you you ever had your electricity turn off? Here in Arizona, during the summer months, we experience a number of thunder storms.  We have a fancy name for that called monsoons.  

They usually start or end with ugly waves of dust storms and seldom bring rain.  That is the discouraging part.  However, when a monsoon comes, it’s like a breath of fresh air from our high heat temperatures. 

Sometimes, these lightening storms can cause breakers to shut down and that means no electricity for a few hours.  We hunt for the candles and flashlights or usually sit outside to wait it out if we can.   

When the power comes back on, it’s a joyous celebration.   The air conditioning turns back on to combat the hot humidity.  The food in the fridge gets cold again and most importantly the lights turn on. 

We depend so much on our natural power source to live on these days, don’t we? 

Why then, do we not use God’s power source in our marriage? 

Your marriage can be like a power outlet

Either you both are plugged in to God’s power source or you aren’t. 

With God as the power source in your marriage you are always “on” even during emergency situations.   It’s only by the power of the Holy Spirit can your marriage thrive and survive through life’s storms.  

The word power means, the ability or official capacity to exercise control; authority

Authority is given through the spoken word.  Proverbs 18: 21 says that death and life are in the power of of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.  The words you speak over your spouse can be:  fear or faith based; discouraging or encouraging; a blessing or a curse.  

I feel like a queen when my husband Ruben speaks words of encouragement, blessings and faith over me.   Yet, it is a constant renewing of my mind for me.  As a wife, I can tend to nag or get my opinion across in a “not so nice” way.  If you know what I mean? 

Literally, I intentionally find myself holding my tongue.  Then, I remember what my Mom told me, “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it at all!”.   Ay!  Your husband would love to feel honored and esteemed by the kind words you speak over him. 

With God as your power source you also have the authority over your marriage to speak to your obstacles or the plans of the enemy.  You have the authority to pray in Jesus Name and believe God for blessings and protection over your marriage.  
Luke 10:19 says, 

Behold, I have given you authority to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing will injure you.

Plugging your marriage into God will give you the power to guard your marriage.  

The power of prayer is mighty in the hands of a married couple.  

Use your weapon of war and fight together with prayer.  You must put on the full armor of God as a married couple.  
Ephesians 6: 10-17 tells us: 

Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might. 
Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.  For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.  Therefore, take up the full armor of God, so that you will be able to resist in the evil day, and having done everything, to stand firm. Stand firm therefore, HAVING GIRDED YOUR LOINS WITH TRUTH, and HAVING PUT ON THE BREASTPLATE OF RIGHTEOUSNESS, and having shod YOUR FEET WITH THE PREPARATION OF THE GOSPEL OF PEACE; in addition to all, taking up the shield of faith with which you will be able to extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one.  And take THE HELMET OF SALVATION, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

When those storms come, you’ll have the power of God to see you through because you are connected to the true power source.  Amen? 

With God all things are possible!  Ruben and I could tell you stories over and over again to prove this verse.   I’ll save that for another time.  I know you want to hear more now. . . but you gotta wait.  🙂

Just know, when the hard times come, you must rely and surrender your marriage to the power of the Holy Spirit. 

Only then, can God’s light shine through you for others to see and you both can be a witness to other married couples.  

Be encouraged.  Get your marriage connected to God’s power source today.  

You’ve got the power! 

Do you have an encouraging story about how God has changed or is growing you in your marriage? 

Please feel free to share and comment below!  

You are beautiful.  

Blessings and Shalom

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MM: Marriage Monday { Pray Together}

When was the last time you prayed with your husband?  Together, alone?

It’s been said that “A couple who prays together, stays together”.

I’d like to add one more element to this famous quote.   

The praying couple also stays in love with each other and with God

“Again I say to you, that if two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father who is in heaven.  For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst.”

 Matthew 18: 19-20

Praying together helps couples to deepen their relationship with the Lord.  It confirms your unity in your marriage covenant.  You are powerful as a couple when you agree in prayer!  During prayer, you are sharing your hearts with each other before the Lord.  It gives you the opportunity to take your fears, hurts, and needs before the Lord together in unity.  This is a time for perfect intimacy to occur between you both.  It’s a spiritual bond that should not be taken lightly.  

Most of all, praying together keeps your marriage strong.  Why do we wait until we are in trouble to pray?  Bitterness, unforgiveness and sin creep slowly into our marriage over a period of days, weeks and months.  It’s like a dripping faucet in the kitchen.  After a while, the home will be flooded with disaster from that one continuous drop of water.  We must be consistent in prayer to prevent disaster.  Being covered in prayer equips us for whatever lies ahead.  

Devote yourselves to prayer, keeping alert in it with an attitude of thanksgiving
Colossians 4:2

Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walks about, seeking whom he may devour. 1 Peter 5: 8 

{Getting Started} 

  • Ask each other forgiveness 
  • Repent of any sin
  • Praise, give thanks and worship to God.

{What to Pray About?}

  • Your children/grandchildren/spiritual children
  • Your future/direction
  • God’s will for your marriage
  • Your love to grow deeper
  • Protection for your marriage 
  • Your faith walk to grow stronger
  • Your provision 

{Blessing Each Other During Prayer}

In my 5 Days of Blessings For the Family Series, I share how you can bless your spouse by praying the Word of God over their lives.    I made free printables of each blessing for the husband and the wife that you can use during your prayer time.  Click on the links below: 

I encourage you to not see praying with your husband as a challenge, but as a true blessing.   Take time to pray together as a couple every day.  Jesus, will move in your marriage!  Trust Him.  

Blessings and Shalom,

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MM: Marriage Monday {The Day I Said Yes!}

I usually write on my blog to encourage women.  Today, I also write to encourage myself. 

Getting caught up in the everyday life of being a Mama can make us forget how important our husband is to us. 

Today, I admit, I’m guilty of that. 

Then, this morning,  I had a glimpse of a sweet memory  . . . the day my husband proposed to me.  

Today, 18 years ago, I was asked the big question that many women long to be asked, “Will you marry me?”.  

That day was overwhelmingly joyful!  Ruben was adorably romantic.  He only dropped the ring once. . . he was so nervous.   He waited anxiously for me to answer with that one word, yes!”.  

That night, I couldn’t sleep.  I felt like I was walking on air.  I was going to be Ruben Valenzuela’s wife!   A dream come true.  

This is the day I said yes! 
Think back to the day when your husband asked you to marry him? 

We all have our precious unique love story, don’t we?  Yet, do we take the time to remember? 

Your husband chose you!  You chose Him!  Together you are a beautiful love story.  

If you can picture in your mind all the other women who would love to have him and remind yourself that he chose you.  It will make you realize how blessed you are. 

Your husband isn’t the only one who chose you.  The Bible says in John 15:16, “You did not choose Me but I chose you, and appointed you that you would go and bear fruit, and that your fruit would remain, so that whatever you ask of the Father in My name He may give to you”.  

You did not choose God, but He chose you.  It’s a choice of eternity-love everlasting.  
Just as I may take advantage of the fact that I have been blessed with a wonderful loving husband, I can also forget the One who gave my husband to me.  

Oh Lord, may I never forget that you chose me first.  

I choose to be intentional in remembering how thankful I am for my husband. 

I choose to be a wife first, then a Mama.  

I choose to remember that I am his and his alone.  

I choose to remember that I am yours Lord.  
Today, I take a sentimental journey that reminds me to be grateful for my husband.  I am blessed to be married to such a kind and loving man of God.  I love my husband.  

Even after all the mistakes we’ve made, and all the hard times we’ve faced, I thank the Lord for seeing us through the storms of life.  

The marriage journey has not been easy, but I would marry Ruben all over again if he asked me to-

I wouldn’t change a thing! 
What are some ways you keep your husband at the top of your list?  

Do you got a special engagement story?  I’d love to hear it, comment below! 

Blessings and Shalom

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MM: Marriage Monday {Finding Mercy in Your Marriage}

Last night I had a dream about God’s abounding mercy.  It was so beautiful.    I saw how much God loves us, more than we can comprehend.  

     John 3:16  
 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, 
that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.

When I awoke from the dream, I realized that I could relate this message to marriage and today is MM: Marriage Monday, so be blessed woman of God! 

How do you find mercy in your marriage? 

The same way God extends mercy to you, with loving kindness and forgiveness.  

Adonai is a God of mercy and love.   He is good.  He is forgiving to those who call upon Him.  

Psalm 86: 5 

For You, Lord, are good, and ready to forgive,

And abundant in mercy to all those who call upon You.

Psalm 136: 1-9
Oh, give thanks to the Lord, for He is good, 
For His mercy endures forever.
Oh, give thanks to the God of gods, 
 For His mercy endures forever.
Oh, give thanks to the Lord of lords, 
For His mercy endures forever:
To Him who alone does great wonders, 
For His mercy endures forever;
To Him who by wisdom made the heavens, 
For His mercy endures forever;
To Him who laid out the earth above the waters,
For His mercy endures forever;
To Him who made great lights,
For His mercy endures forever—
The sun to rule by day,
For His mercy endures forever;
The moon and stars to rule by night,  
For His mercy endures forever.

In a marriage, what does it look like when you extend mercy? 

 You Forgive.  

Matthew 18:21-22
 Then Peter came and said to Him, 
“Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?”  
Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.

Jesus told us to forgive 70 x 7!  Now, that’s a bunch.  Literally He was saying to forgive always.  

Ephesians 4:31-32

 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.   Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.  

Forgiveness is the key to finding unconditional love and mercy for your spouse. 

After an offense has been done against you, don’t let bitterness or anger take root in your heart.  No matter how hard it may be, forgive. 

It’s not by our strength, but it’s by God’s love in us that gives us the strength to forgive.  Ask the Lord to help you forgive.  He will show you.  

A marriage that is a Godly marriage shows the fruit of forgiveness and restoration.  

Sometimes the hardest person to forgive may be our spouse, but if we are a child of God, we must extend mercy.  We must forgive each other in order to be forgiven by our Father.  
You will see the love of God move in your heart as you forgive.  Every day is a new opportunity to forgive!  

You can find mercy in your marriage by choosing to forgive my friend.   

I challenge you to begin today.  

Your marriage depends on it! 

Blessings and Shalom, 

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