5 Bible Verses to Become a Better Wife

I’m so thankful I have the Bible to help me be a better wife.  I believe in the heart of every married woman, is the desire to love her husband and be that wife God intended her to become.  God’s instructions for marriage are found in the Bible and they include a promise.  When you follow God’s instructions, you are blessed.   As wives, we are on a journey of learning how to be our husband’s help mate, to bring him good and not harm all the days of his life!  Here are 5 quick Bible verses to encourage you in your marriage journey.  

1.  Psalm 128: 3 
Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house: thy children like olive plants round about thy table.

2.  Proverbs 12: 4
A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.

3.  Proverbs 14: 1
Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
4.  Ephesians 5: 22-23
Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 

5.  Proverbs 31: 10-31
10An excellent wife, who can find?
         For her worth is far above jewels. 
11The heart of her husband trusts in her,
         And he will have no lack of gain. 
12She does him good and not evil
         All the days of her life. 
13She looks for wool and flax
         And works with her hands in delight. 
14She is like merchant ships;
         She brings her food from afar. 
15She rises also while it is still night
         And gives food to her household
         And portions to her maidens. 
16She considers a field and buys it;
         From her earnings she plants a vineyard. 
17She girds herself with strength
         And makes her arms strong. 
18She senses that her gain is good;
         Her lamp does not go out at night. 
19She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
         And her hands grasp the spindle. 
20She extends her hand to the poor,
         And she stretches out her hands to the needy. 
21She is not afraid of the snow for her household,
         For all her household are clothed with scarlet. 
22She makes coverings for herself;
         Her clothing is fine linen and purple. 
23Her husband is known in the gates,
         When he sits among the elders of the land. 
24She makes linen garments and sells them,
         And supplies belts to the tradesmen. 
25Strength and dignity are her clothing,
         And she smiles at the future. 
26She opens her mouth in wisdom,
         And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. 
27She looks well to the ways of her household,
         And does not eat the bread of idleness. 
28Her children rise up and bless her;
         Her husband also, and he praises her, saying:
29“Many daughters have done nobly,
         But you excel them all.” 
30Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain,
         But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised. 
31Give her the product of her hands,
         And let her works praise her in the gates.

Blessings and Shalom, 


MM: Marriage Monday {Mr. and Mrs. Challenge!}

For Marriage Monday this week, Ruben joined me for the Mr. and Mrs. Challenge which was totally hilarious!  To be honest, Ruben wasn’t too excited to film this with me.  He’s a little camera shy, but getting better at it.   Since, he loves me so much, he gave in and in honor of our 17th wedding anniversary he accepted the challenge.  Half way through the filming he was on a roll and having so much fun!

We change so much during the years in our marriage.  Our likes and dislikes change.  Our perspectives and priorities change.  It will be fun to look back on this and see how we were as a married couple at this time.  I totally recommend you do this challenge with your spouse.  You can film it for your kids as a memory or make it a fun game night with other married couples.  Our daughter, Hadara had fun asking us the questions which we didn’t know prior to the filming.   She also had fun putting her little two sense in, here and there.   She’s getting more spunky and I love it.  I also have to give her props for making the cute little stick puppets.  

Hope you enjoy the video!

Blessings and Shalom,

MM: Marriage Monday {Our Valentine’s Day Weekend Recap and a Prayer For Your Marriage}

Friday evening, Ruben took Hadara out on their annual Father Daughter date.  They’ve been doing this since she was four years old.  This time they got all dressed up and went to Olive Garden.  Hadara loves pasta, anything Italian. Since it was ladies pick, Daddy had to agree.  He also took her out for a little shopping trip afterwards.  I can’t stress enough how important it is for Fathers to take their daughters out on special dates.  Hadara came home walking on sunshine and you could just see the happiness all over their faces.  Special memories being made!  It warms my heart every time.  

Saturday morning, we had a family Valentine’s day.  I hosted a special brunch for my parents, and my niece and nephews.  We had yummy pancakes, scrambled eggs, and hash brown casserole.  The kiddies enjoyed their Love Brunch.  After we filled our tummies, we met in the living room for worship and a family devotional. The kids passed out Valentines in their class and enjoyed Ruben teaching them about John 3:16.  While I taught my parents about the 5 Love Languages in marriage and our children.  The kids also played fun games together and we all laughed until our bellies hurt.  We all had a blessed time.  I really enjoyed this Valentine’s day because in past years, it’s usually all about Ruben and I going out by ourselves.  However,  this time, it was extra special to be able to share it with family and include the kids in all of it!  I love when laughs and love fill our Little Pink Casa.  

After our family left, it was date night time.  I planned to make Ruben a romantic candlelight dinner after we put Hadara to bed early.  However, I was so exhausted from being the hostess queen, that Ruben offered to go get us take-out instead.  I love him!  Sadly, on his way out, he realized one of our tires was flat and that changed the course of our romantic evening.  Ruben was able to fix the tire and bring us some dinner home to eat.  With some patience,  I lit some candles and we had our special date after all.  Maybe not how I planned, but it was beautiful anyways.  We exchanged our gifts, love letters and love coupons at the kitchen table.  Even after all the distractions, it all worked out.  I decided not to get frustrated or upset.  There’s no such thing as a perfect Valentine’s day.  There’s no such thing as a perfect marriage.  And that’s simply ok with me.  Love is patient and Love is kind.  Maybe in the past, I would have let this kind of thing bothered me, but I’ve learned that it’s not about me.  This world does not revolve around me, myself and I.  Love is not selfish and it is not puffed up.  God’s love is all I want to have and all I want to give.  Loving my husband God’s way is perfect.  

I’d say, this weekend was perfect, because we were together, we had fun and God’s LOVE filled our home.   My perspective on Valentine’s day this year was about God’s love and His grace anyways.  The Lord reminded me of this Bible verse from Song of Solomon 2:4 which simply says, “Let him lead me to the banquet hall, and let his banner over me be love”.  

I leave you with a special Marriage prayer.  It comes from my free e-guide, Happily Ever After:  A Marriage Guide to Keep the Romance Alive.  Filled with romance ideas and free printables.  
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Blessings and Shalom, 



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MM: Marriage Monday {5 Bible Verses About God’s Love for Your Marriage}

The world has it’s own meaning of love.  In fact, the 1980’s pop song, What’s Love Got to Do With It?, seems to be the motto now days.  Today’s culture is quickly forgetting what love is,  yet many follow a distorted view that only leads down to a road of painful relationships and destruction.  There are many hurting people around you.  Take a look.  Why do people keep looking for love in the all the wrong places?   What has happened to the real meaning of true love?  

It can only be found in the Bible.  Call it old fashioned?  Yes, the Bible is old-fashioned and there’s nothing wrong with that.  In fact, it’s all right!  The Bible tells us, “Love comes from God and those who are loving and kind show that they are the children of God”.    1 John 4:7.  True love comes from God.  The best thing you can do in your marriage today is to know the love of the Father-who is LOVE.  True Love.  

It’s only by knowing God through His son Jesus, that you have the power to love your spouse in a supernatural way.  When you feel like it or not.  Feelings and emotions have nothing to do with it.  You know what I mean.  Let’s be real.  Test yourself.  

Ask yourself these questions:  

  • When was the last time you showed God’s love to your spouse?  
  • What is God’s love anyway?  
  • How can I show God’s love to my spouse if I don’t even know it myself? 

How do you love your spouse?  With God’s lovingkindness.  

Here are 5 Bible verses about God’s Love For Your Marriage:
Use these Bible verses to encourage you and learn how to love your spouse God’s way.   

Isaiah 43:4
Since you were precious in My sight,
You have been honored,
And I have loved you;
Therefore I will give men for you,
And people for your life.

Jeremiah 31:3
The Lord has appeared of old to me, saying:
“Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love;
Therefore with lovingkindness I have drawn you.

John 3: 16, 17
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. 17 For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved.
Romans 5: 5-8
Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.
Titus 3: 4-7 
But when the kindness and the love of God our Savior toward man appeared, not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to His mercy He saved us, through the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit, whom He poured out on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Savior, that having been justified by His grace we should become heirs according to the hope of eternal life.

-I encourage you to show God’s lovingkindness to your spouse this week through your words and actions.  Don’t wait until Valentine’s day.  Every day is a day of love.  

What Bible verses would you add to the list?  

Blessings and Shalom, 


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MM: Marriage Monday {The Happily Ever After Romance Guide is Here!}

I’m so excited!  It’s here!  My newest e-book, Happily Ever After:  A Marriage Guide to Keep the Romance Alive.   It’s official and just in time for Valentine’s Day! A His and Her guide filled with quick and easy ideas to keep the romance lasting in your marriage all year long!  The resource pack includes topics such as: romantic ideas for dates, gift giving, recipes,  Love Coupon printables, and so much more!  

For the past couple of weeks, I’ve shared a couple of excerpts from the guide on Marriage Monday.  I hope you’ve enjoyed those.  Now you can get your own Happily Ever After guide

Stop putting the romance on the back burner, it’s time to light the fire in your marriage today!  My guide will give you and your spouse fun and quick ideas you can use right now.   Get started by clicking here to purchase the Happily Ever After guide today.

We hope Happily Ever After will be a blessing to your marriage. May it be a guide, you can refer to during the year for fresh ideas to keep the romance alive in your marriage journey.                                                                                                                                            

Blessings and Shalom, 


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MM: Marriage Monday {10 Love Songs to Serenade Your Sweetheart}

One way to bring back the romance in your marriage is through a old-fashion serenade.  Singing to your spouse can be a lovely gesture that brings intimacy and expression from the heart.  It doesn’t matter if you can sing or not.  As long as it comes from the heart, your spouse will treasure your efforts.   A cappella, karaoke or a live band?   The choice is yours.  Warm up those vocal chords and most of all have fun!  
Here are 10 Love songs to serenade your Sweetheart!  

  • My Heart Will Go On
  • The Way You Do the Things You Do
  • I Honestly Love You
  • Can’t Take My Eyes Off of You
  • Always On My Mind
  • I Will Always Love You
  • Just the Way You Are
  • Save the Best For Last
  • I Just Called to Say I Love You
  • Can’t Help Falling in Love 
 
 
 
 
Song of Solomon 2: 8-12 

The voice of my beloved! behold, he cometh leaping upon the mountains, skipping upon the hills.
My beloved is like a roe or a young hart: behold, he standeth behind our wall, he looketh forth at the windows, shewing himself through the lattice.
10 My beloved spake, and said unto me, Rise up, my love, my fair one, and come away.
11 For, lo, the winter is past, the rain is over and gone;
12 The flowers appear on the earth; the time of the singing of birds is come, and the voice of the turtle is heard in our land;

Blessings and Shalom, 
 
 
What are some love songs you’d add to the list?  
How do you keep the romance going in your marriage? 
 Share your ideas in the comments below.  

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MM: Marriage Monday {How to Make a Romance Basket}

When Ruben and I first got married, we made time for romantic endeavors.  It’s quite easy in the beginning, but romance in marriage can become stale as the years go on.  Life happens.  It becomes more challenging to keep a romantic mindset when kids are around and the bills need to be paid.  I totally get that.  However, when the fire is out, your marriage suffers.  Keeping romance alive in your marriage shouldn’t be a chore.  It can be fun, easy and affordable.  You just need to take creative action.  One way is to make a Romance basket. 

Romance baskets are perfect for Valentines Day, getaways, anniversary celebrations, honeymoon gifts and date nights.   They can even be used at home behind closed bedroom doors once the kids are asleep.  It’s great because it only takes a little bit of time to put it together.  Most of the items can be bought at discount stores or found in your own stash.   No excuses, it’s time to get romantic! 

Simply fill a basket or container of your choice with: 
  • 1 bottle of your favorite beverage.  I like sparkling apple cider. 
  • 2 plastic champagne flutes
  • 1 candle 
  • 1 body lotion
  • 1 body wash or bath salts
  • Rose petals, which you can sprinkle in a bath, or make a heart on the bed.  Who wouldn’t love to lay in a bed full of rose petals?  
  • Most of all, some chocolate!  
I believe a romantic evening with your spouse should include:  pampering, creativity, and intimacy.  A romance basket encourages all of this!  

Get creative.  Romance hat boxes and romance totes can be filled with these goodies too, so use what you have.  

Don’t forget the romantic music.  I created a romance playlist on my iTunes that’s always ready to go!
  
Give it away. Also, if you’re giving a romance basket as a gift, wrap it up with shrink wrap and finish off with a bow.  I add a pretty tag which you can download for free here.  
How to Make a Romance Basket
Don’t let your budget stop you from being creatively romantic with your spouse.  Believe me, once you make your romance basket, you’ll want to use it over and over again. 

Blessings and Shalom,  

 

 

This article is an excerpt from my new resource pack, Happily Ever After:  A Marriage Guide to Keep the Romance Alive.  Filled with romance ideas and free printables.

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MM: Marriage Monday {The Best Years of Our Lives}

Today is Little Pink Casa’s first Marriage Monday post of 2015.  Are you ready for the best year in your marriage?  Keep reading. . . 

This weekend, Ruben and I watched a movie together called, “The Best Years of Our Lives“.  The first time we watched this movie was a year after we were married, about 15 years ago.   The movie is one those World War 2 tear jerkers.  It’s a black and white classic.  Ruben and I enjoy watching classic movies together and this one is as good as it gets.    You’re probably asking, “what does this movie have to do with my marriage?”.   Even though this movie takes place in the 1940’s many of the lessons in it are relevant for marriage today.

Let me fill you in on the background of the film. . .

The movie begins with three war veterans returning back from war to civilization and to the lives they left before the war.  One man is happily married and a father with grown children.  Another man is a newlywed, just married before he left for war.  The other is a young man who lost both his hands in battle and is coming back to a girlfriend.  

The movie connects all three men together as they travel home and end up in the same city.  We follow the men’s stories and watch how they try to adapt back to their pre-war lives.   During a climactic scene with the married father, a great truth is exposed.  

In this particular scene, the father and his wife try to console their twenty-something daughter about her love dilemma.  The daughter blurts out to her parents, “how would you understand, you’ve never had any problems, your marriage is perfect!”.  The mother and father look at each other and gently smile as they tell their daughter, “How many times did we have to fall in love with each other again?”.   Those specific lines resounded in my head.  

“Your marriage is perfect!”.  

“How many times did we have to fall in love with each other again?”.  

Now I ask you, How many times have you cried, been discouraged or felt sorry for yourself because you thought your marriage isn’t perfect?  

How many times did you believe the lie that your marriage has to be perfect?  Who really has a perfect marriage anyways?  

No one.  

Setting yourself up for unrealistic expectations sets your marriage up for failure.  It can soon destroy your relationship.  Also, focusing on what you don’t have in your marriage allows your joy for the present to be stolen.  You could be missing out on the best years of your lives.   

Fall in love Again
I have learned that when we start to believe our marriage is imperfect,  that’s when it’s time to fall in love with our spouse again.  It starts with not looking for perfection in your marriage, but looking to the One who is Perfect-our God!  1 Peter 4:8 tells us, “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins”.   Marriage is a union of two sinners and disappointment will come.  We may lose that loving feeling.  However, if we look to God’s definition of love, we can love each other deeply enough to cover the imperfections.  
Falling in love with your spouse is an ongoing process and it’s a choice.  It takes work and intentional focus.  It’s never too late to recommit your love for each other.    No matter how cold the love has grown.  Reigniting the love in your marriage is like a campfire in winter.  The fire begins with one spark, and burns strong at the beginning.  Yet, as the hours pass, the flame grows low.   The air grows cold, darkness fills the camp.  It’s time for more logs on the fire.  It’s time to build that fire up again.  Fan the flame.  

Just because the fire is slowly dying doesn’t mean it’s out.  Yet, even if the fire dies, there’s always a way to relight it.  Throw another match on the fire!   It only takes one match to get a fire burning.

I want to encourage you this new year, wherever you are in your marriage journey, to fall in love again!   Reignite the passion in your marriage by asking the Lord to help you see your spouse through His eyes of love.  Commit to love your spouse deeply.  Love without measure.  Life is too short.  Don’t wait until it’s too late.   These really are the best years of your lives! 

Blessings and Shalom, 







What are some ways you fall in love with your spouse again?  

Ruben and I love to dress up like the prom, turn the lights down low and dance to romantic music in our living room.  It’s simple, doesn’t cost a cent, yet makes my heart flutter.  

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MM: Marriage Monday {Our Love Story + Tips on How to Find a Good Spouse}

It’s MM:  Marriage Monday at the Little Pink Casa and today is extra special because Ruben, my husband joins me for the very first time.  
Was it love at first sight?  Today’s marriage post is a video teaching where Ruben and I share our love story and how we first met.  We also give marriage tips on how to find a good spouse and how to keep a Godly marriage.   

You’ll also get to know us a little better and see some tears, but happy tears.  You’ll have to watch it to see!  Grab your Bible and a cup of joe . . . it’s time to be encouraged, inspired and filled with joy.  We hope it helps you remember your own love story.  

Thank you so much for taking time to watch this video.  We had so much fun filming this together and working as a team.  

We love your comments and please tell us what you thought of us together? 

Where did you meet your spouse?  

Do you think you and your husband are starting to look like each other?  (inside video joke)

Blessings and Shalom, 

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MM: Marriage Monday {How to Love Your Husband in Difficult Times}

This week on Marriage Monday at the Little Pink Casa, learn how to love your husband in difficult times.  Grab your Bible!  This is going to be life changing for your marriage! 

It’s an early fall Monday morning.   I’m sitting here with my coffee.  Peering out the back kitchen window with devotional in hand.  

I’m thinking . . . how wonderful it is that I can sit here for a peaceful moment.  A time to gather my thoughts.  A time to be thankful.  I open my Bible to 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 and read, 

“Love is patient and kind, not jealous, not boastful,
not proud, rude or selfish, not easily angered,
and it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not gloat over other people’s sins
but takes its delight in the truth.
Love always bears up, always trusts,
always hopes, always endures.”

This weekend, my husband Ruben preached a message for our home fellowship about 1 Corinthians 13.  

Love.  

We are mostly familiar with these verses, aren’t we?  Sometimes all too familiar.  We can take for granted what these verses truly mean when it comes to the marriage relationship.   Something that is so familiar can become overlooked.   

You can show your husband a zillion ways how you love him when times are great.   That’s the easy part.  


However, the true test, is loving your husband when life is hard or when you don’t feel like it.   When you don’t feel patient or kind.  When you want to bring up your husband’s past mistakes in order to win an argument.  When your pride wants to take over.  Come on, be honest.  You’ve been there before.  Maybe you are there right now? 

How do you love your husband during the best and worst of times?  

When you may not feel like it?  

Simply, by remembering that your husband is a blessing.  

When I start to remember why I love my husband and why he is such a blessing to me, my heart changes.   I melt.    I remember that loving my husband is not based on my feelings.  Feelings and emotions are unstable.  They are self-motivated and based on circumstances.  

Romans 8:15 says, For those who are according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who are according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit.”

Loving your husband is a decision to love him with God’s unconditional love.  Also, it is a love initiated by the Spirit of God.  That can only be done by the power of the Holy Spirit within you.   You can not do it on your own.  

In other words, choose to love your husband no matter what comes your way.  There’s no escape plan if the relationship gets too hard or you lose that loving feeling.  Marriage is for life.  A strong biblical marriage can not be like the wind, blowing here and there, yet it must remain built on the solid rock, Jesus.  When built on a firm foundation, no matter what storms come your way, you both can stand strong together.  

During the most difficult times,  your husband needs your love the most.  As a wife, you can choose to love your husband by showing him kindness, forgiveness, and also releasing him from past offenses.    God loves us and forgives us no matter what we’ve done.   In order to be forgiven by God, the Bible says we need to forgive others their trespasses also (Matthew 6:15).    

Praying for your husband during difficult times is also a way to extend love toward him.  It’s been said that a praying wife is more valuable than gold.  Who else will pray for your husband?  It is a high calling and honor to go to the Father and intercede for your husband.  Some things you can pray over him are God’s will for his life, protection and blessings.  

Have you thought about why your husband is a blessing to you and your family lately? 
When we start to count our blessings and be grateful, everything changes.  The way you see your husband changes.  You start to see him through God’s eyes.  God’s way.  


My husband is a blessing to me because . . . 

He knows me.  He takes me on coffee dates where I can enjoy the biggest lattes ever! 



He makes me laugh.  I love his big contagious smile!  

He’s fun to be around.  He’s like grease lightening! 

He loves me a bushel and a peck and a hug around the neck.  Even when I don’t deserve it.


Why is your husband a blessing to you?  
What are your reasons?  Now it’s your turn.  Make a list and write a little note telling your husband why he’s a blessing to you.  Get crazy, fun or creative.  

It may be a challenge to love your husband during difficult times, but your husband truly is a gift from God.   Take time to share your list with your husband this week.  He’ll feel like he’s on top of the world!  

Blessings and Shalom


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