MM: Marriage Monday {The Best Years of Our Lives}

Today is Little Pink Casa’s first Marriage Monday post of 2015.  Are you ready for the best year in your marriage?  Keep reading. . . 

This weekend, Ruben and I watched a movie together called, “The Best Years of Our Lives“.  The first time we watched this movie was a year after we were married, about 15 years ago.   The movie is one those World War 2 tear jerkers.  It’s a black and white classic.  Ruben and I enjoy watching classic movies together and this one is as good as it gets.    You’re probably asking, “what does this movie have to do with my marriage?”.   Even though this movie takes place in the 1940’s many of the lessons in it are relevant for marriage today.

Let me fill you in on the background of the film. . .

The movie begins with three war veterans returning back from war to civilization and to the lives they left before the war.  One man is happily married and a father with grown children.  Another man is a newlywed, just married before he left for war.  The other is a young man who lost both his hands in battle and is coming back to a girlfriend.  

The movie connects all three men together as they travel home and end up in the same city.  We follow the men’s stories and watch how they try to adapt back to their pre-war lives.   During a climactic scene with the married father, a great truth is exposed.  

In this particular scene, the father and his wife try to console their twenty-something daughter about her love dilemma.  The daughter blurts out to her parents, “how would you understand, you’ve never had any problems, your marriage is perfect!”.  The mother and father look at each other and gently smile as they tell their daughter, “How many times did we have to fall in love with each other again?”.   Those specific lines resounded in my head.  

“Your marriage is perfect!”.  

“How many times did we have to fall in love with each other again?”.  

Now I ask you, How many times have you cried, been discouraged or felt sorry for yourself because you thought your marriage isn’t perfect?  

How many times did you believe the lie that your marriage has to be perfect?  Who really has a perfect marriage anyways?  

No one.  

Setting yourself up for unrealistic expectations sets your marriage up for failure.  It can soon destroy your relationship.  Also, focusing on what you don’t have in your marriage allows your joy for the present to be stolen.  You could be missing out on the best years of your lives.   

Fall in love Again
I have learned that when we start to believe our marriage is imperfect,  that’s when it’s time to fall in love with our spouse again.  It starts with not looking for perfection in your marriage, but looking to the One who is Perfect-our God!  1 Peter 4:8 tells us, “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins”.   Marriage is a union of two sinners and disappointment will come.  We may lose that loving feeling.  However, if we look to God’s definition of love, we can love each other deeply enough to cover the imperfections.  
Falling in love with your spouse is an ongoing process and it’s a choice.  It takes work and intentional focus.  It’s never too late to recommit your love for each other.    No matter how cold the love has grown.  Reigniting the love in your marriage is like a campfire in winter.  The fire begins with one spark, and burns strong at the beginning.  Yet, as the hours pass, the flame grows low.   The air grows cold, darkness fills the camp.  It’s time for more logs on the fire.  It’s time to build that fire up again.  Fan the flame.  

Just because the fire is slowly dying doesn’t mean it’s out.  Yet, even if the fire dies, there’s always a way to relight it.  Throw another match on the fire!   It only takes one match to get a fire burning.

I want to encourage you this new year, wherever you are in your marriage journey, to fall in love again!   Reignite the passion in your marriage by asking the Lord to help you see your spouse through His eyes of love.  Commit to love your spouse deeply.  Love without measure.  Life is too short.  Don’t wait until it’s too late.   These really are the best years of your lives! 

Blessings and Shalom, 







What are some ways you fall in love with your spouse again?  

Ruben and I love to dress up like the prom, turn the lights down low and dance to romantic music in our living room.  It’s simple, doesn’t cost a cent, yet makes my heart flutter.  

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MM: Marriage Monday {Our Love Story + Tips on How to Find a Good Spouse}

It’s MM:  Marriage Monday at the Little Pink Casa and today is extra special because Ruben, my husband joins me for the very first time.  
Was it love at first sight?  Today’s marriage post is a video teaching where Ruben and I share our love story and how we first met.  We also give marriage tips on how to find a good spouse and how to keep a Godly marriage.   

You’ll also get to know us a little better and see some tears, but happy tears.  You’ll have to watch it to see!  Grab your Bible and a cup of joe . . . it’s time to be encouraged, inspired and filled with joy.  We hope it helps you remember your own love story.  

Thank you so much for taking time to watch this video.  We had so much fun filming this together and working as a team.  

We love your comments and please tell us what you thought of us together? 

Where did you meet your spouse?  

Do you think you and your husband are starting to look like each other?  (inside video joke)

Blessings and Shalom, 

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MM: Marriage Monday {How to Love Your Husband in Difficult Times}

This week on Marriage Monday at the Little Pink Casa, learn how to love your husband in difficult times.  Grab your Bible!  This is going to be life changing for your marriage! 

It’s an early fall Monday morning.   I’m sitting here with my coffee.  Peering out the back kitchen window with devotional in hand.  

I’m thinking . . . how wonderful it is that I can sit here for a peaceful moment.  A time to gather my thoughts.  A time to be thankful.  I open my Bible to 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 and read, 

“Love is patient and kind, not jealous, not boastful,
not proud, rude or selfish, not easily angered,
and it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not gloat over other people’s sins
but takes its delight in the truth.
Love always bears up, always trusts,
always hopes, always endures.”

This weekend, my husband Ruben preached a message for our home fellowship about 1 Corinthians 13.  

Love.  

We are mostly familiar with these verses, aren’t we?  Sometimes all too familiar.  We can take for granted what these verses truly mean when it comes to the marriage relationship.   Something that is so familiar can become overlooked.   

You can show your husband a zillion ways how you love him when times are great.   That’s the easy part.  


However, the true test, is loving your husband when life is hard or when you don’t feel like it.   When you don’t feel patient or kind.  When you want to bring up your husband’s past mistakes in order to win an argument.  When your pride wants to take over.  Come on, be honest.  You’ve been there before.  Maybe you are there right now? 

How do you love your husband during the best and worst of times?  

When you may not feel like it?  

Simply, by remembering that your husband is a blessing.  

When I start to remember why I love my husband and why he is such a blessing to me, my heart changes.   I melt.    I remember that loving my husband is not based on my feelings.  Feelings and emotions are unstable.  They are self-motivated and based on circumstances.  

Romans 8:15 says, For those who are according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who are according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit.”

Loving your husband is a decision to love him with God’s unconditional love.  Also, it is a love initiated by the Spirit of God.  That can only be done by the power of the Holy Spirit within you.   You can not do it on your own.  

In other words, choose to love your husband no matter what comes your way.  There’s no escape plan if the relationship gets too hard or you lose that loving feeling.  Marriage is for life.  A strong biblical marriage can not be like the wind, blowing here and there, yet it must remain built on the solid rock, Jesus.  When built on a firm foundation, no matter what storms come your way, you both can stand strong together.  

During the most difficult times,  your husband needs your love the most.  As a wife, you can choose to love your husband by showing him kindness, forgiveness, and also releasing him from past offenses.    God loves us and forgives us no matter what we’ve done.   In order to be forgiven by God, the Bible says we need to forgive others their trespasses also (Matthew 6:15).    

Praying for your husband during difficult times is also a way to extend love toward him.  It’s been said that a praying wife is more valuable than gold.  Who else will pray for your husband?  It is a high calling and honor to go to the Father and intercede for your husband.  Some things you can pray over him are God’s will for his life, protection and blessings.  

Have you thought about why your husband is a blessing to you and your family lately? 
When we start to count our blessings and be grateful, everything changes.  The way you see your husband changes.  You start to see him through God’s eyes.  God’s way.  


My husband is a blessing to me because . . . 

He knows me.  He takes me on coffee dates where I can enjoy the biggest lattes ever! 



He makes me laugh.  I love his big contagious smile!  

He’s fun to be around.  He’s like grease lightening! 

He loves me a bushel and a peck and a hug around the neck.  Even when I don’t deserve it.


Why is your husband a blessing to you?  
What are your reasons?  Now it’s your turn.  Make a list and write a little note telling your husband why he’s a blessing to you.  Get crazy, fun or creative.  

It may be a challenge to love your husband during difficult times, but your husband truly is a gift from God.   Take time to share your list with your husband this week.  He’ll feel like he’s on top of the world!  

Blessings and Shalom


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MM: Marriage Monday {Run the Marriage Race-Don’t Lag Behind}

Hebrews 12: 1-2 
Therefore, since we have so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us also lay aside every encumbrance and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

Growing a Godly marriage can be similar to running a great race.  In the beginning, you begin your marriage journey with energy, excitement and great expectation.  There is no doubt, you and your husband are in this race to win.  


Then, something happens.   Life.  

How do you run this marriage race with endurance and finish the course?  

Follow me over to “A Little R & R” where I am guest posting today and see how you can run and win this marriage race of faith.  

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Blessings and Shalom, 






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My Messy Beautiful Love Review and Giveaway!


  In my last Marriage Monday post I wrote about how marriage can get messy, but it’s through God’s grace that marriage is beautiful.   I’ve been reading Darlene Schacht’ new book, Messy Beautiful Love and honestly, I can’t tell you enough how this book is anointed to nourish and save marriages.  Including my own.   To be honest, this is the first book of Darlene’s that I was blessed to read.  I’ve read her posts from her Time Warp Wife blog, but reading a book like this is exhilarating, humbling and empowering.  

Oh my, I was definitely challenged. This isn’t your average Christian marriage book that gives you a cookie cutter outline or even a “everything’s coming up roses in your marriage” thesis. 

Messy Beautiful Love is raw in all it’s gentleness.  Sincere in all it’s flaws.  Real.  As real as real gets ladies.  

Marriage enrichment is a key to growing a Godly marriage.
On my marriage journey, I have learned, that you never arrive in your relationship.  Just when you think you have a great marriage, well . . . watch out.  Just when you think you’ve learned all you need to know about marriage enrichment, don’t stop.   Just when you think you’ve been to enough marriage conferences, read enough marriage books to open your own bookstore . . . you haven’t done enough.  

Growing a Godly marriage is an ongoing process.  You can never outgrow or never learn too much.    Never say never.  🙂 Darlene’s heart felt story of her own marriage journey intertwined with Biblical truths challenged me to be a better wife.   

A God-fearing wife.  A wife that may not have it all together, but with God’s love, I can.  


A Forgiven wife.   Because God’s grace is sufficient for me. It’s never too late.  



My Husband’s Bride.  I shine bright in my husband’s eyes, when He sees Jesus in me.   

Messy Beautiful Love has challenged me to walk in humility.  Submitting to God as I submit to my husband.  It may not be easy, yet I want to please God first.  Through Christ,  I can do anything.     

Thank you Darlene for following God’s call and mission for sharing your story.  I know now, that I am not alone.  I believe and pray that many women’s hearts will be healed and marriages changed when they read this book, all for the glory of God! 

Women in the Word, we will be doing a book study on Messy Beautiful Love in the future, so this is a great time to purchase your book and study guide.  


Official Launch Day is here! 
It’s been a fun countdown, but today is the day!  Messy Beautiful Love is available to purchase now!  If you haven’t ordered your copy yet, you can order it here.   It’s so worth it ladies!  Don’t wait.  

Messy Beautiful Love Giveaway
The journey of being on Darlene’s book launch team has truly been a blessing.  As a thank you, Darlene wants to bless one of my Little Pink Casa readers with a free paperback copy of Messy Beautiful Love:  Hope and Redemption for Real-Life Marriages.   Can you just stand it?!  Ok, jump and down!

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You can enter the giveaway here: 
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Blessings and Shalom, 

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MM: Marriage Monday {The Journey of a Messy Beautiful Love}

Happy Monday! 

Today on Marriage Monday, I am sharing a special announcement with you that’s so exciting,  I just can’t keep it to myself!  First, I begin with this. . . 
As you know, I have a heart for encouraging you to cultivate a Christ-centered marriage.  My heart is to save marriages.   I deeply believe that when God is the center of your marriage,  no matter what comes your way, you can go through it.  Even when marriage gets messy.  

Throughout my marriage journey, Ruben and I have seen the Lord restore our love and hope during the messy times in our lives.  Yes, there were times in my marriage journey when I was broken.  I thought all hope was gone.  Perfection lost. 

Yet, the Lord restored and covered us with His tender love and mercy.  He brought healing to our hearts through His Word and many times through desperate prayer.   He bound up our wounds (Psalm 147: 3) 

Picking up the broken pieces can be painful, tender, and beautiful.  Yes, beautiful! 

As the Lord purifies the marriage, He cleans up the broken pieces.  He throws them away.  Never to be remembered.  He restores a new beautiful kind of love.  A new vision, a new masterpiece.  

God is a God of redeeming grace.  Even in your marriage.  No matter where you are in your marriage journey, God’s LOVE never fails.  Jesus will make new again, what is broken.  

No matter what . . . there will be hard times, broken times and messy times in your marriage.  I’m being honest.  Marriage takes hard work, God’s way.  I really wish I could go back and start from the beginning with everything I’ve learned.  I wish somebody would have mentored me or showed me how to prepare for the journey of mistakes and messiness ahead.  

We can’t go back, but we can start from here.  We can go forward.  


As I moved forward, I found a precious mentor and Sister in Christ,  Darlene Schacht otherwise known as the Time-Warp Wife.  Have you heard of her?  I love Darlene’s writing, because her transparency and wisdom shine through in her blog and her books like The Virtuous Life of a Christ-Centered Wife and The Good Wife’s Guide.  She is also Co-Author along with Candace Cameron Bure of a New York Times best-selling book, Reshaping It All.  Her ministry is truly built from walking through the fire and coming out as an overcomer!  I so get her. 

Now, for the Big Announcement!  
Last week,  I was chosen to be on Darlene’s launch team for her newest book, Messy Beautiful Love:  Hope and Redemption for Real-Life Marriages.   Yay!! I’m so honored, humbled and excited.  It is a book about how marriage will have its share of messes, but despite what the world says, we need to surrender our marriage to God when things get tough and be obedient to Him.  

So far, this book has ministered to my inner-most heart, tears and all.  I can’t put it down!   I’m so excited that I’m definitely planning to include Messy Beautiful Love as a Book study for our Women in the Word Live this Fall.  Can you get excited about that?  

I will be posting a book review soon, but if you are excited to pre-order the book, click here 

For those who pre-order, you will receive over $50 in freebies and believe me you will love them!  I’m so enjoying mine. 🙂 


Once you order, emailMessyBeautifulLove@gmail.com. Provide them with your receipt/order confirmation number along with the number of books you purchased.  Soon after, your freebies will arrive in your email box.  Be patient as it might take a couple of days.  The wait is worth it

Check out the Launch giveaway:  This week, the giveaway is a KitchenAid 5 QT Mixer in Aqua Sky Blue.   The giveaway page: http://timewarpwife.com/?p=4514

You can also download a free chapter here.  

I can’t wait to share more with you, it’s gonna be beautiful! 🙂

Blessings and Shalom, 



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MM: Marriage Monday {Reflections from a Thankful Wife}

Here we are together in the beginning.

As a brand new 18 year old college student, I walked into a English 101 classroom, not knowing I’d find my future husband waiting to meet me on that day. I literally walked into my destiny that evening. 

Before then, I had my life all figured out. Of course, I did.  I knew exactly how my life was going to go. 

I would graduate college, get married at 30 and start a family at 35. 

I’d travel more, finish writing my books, go to Paris to become a fashion model. 

I had so much in my own head, BUT GOD! 

THAT night, when I met a gentleman named Ruben, I realized that God had a plan for my life, better than I could ever imagine. 

After 6 months of getting to know each other in class, my husband introduced me to a man better than himself.  He introduced me to my true love, Jesus. 

I can honestly say that my husband had my best interest at heart. He wanted me to have what he had, God’s love and forgiveness. I am so truly thankful over and over again everyday that my husband never stopped believing in me, never gave up on me, never stopped praying for me and never stopped loving me.  

Because of him, I am a daughter of the King and we can truly be together forever in eternity. 

Yes, a Real Man will lead his lady closer to God. 


Here we are now after 21 years since we first met.

1 Thessalonians 5:17-18 
Pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.  


Today for Marriage Monday, I challenge you to pick one thing you are thankful for when it comes to your husband?  

Then, tell him.  

Thank the Lord for your husband.  Praise Him! 


Yup, it’s simple, yet it will mean the world to him. 

Blessings and Shalom








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As a added bonus, I have formed a closed group on Facebook dedicated just for “Princess Bride” bible study ladies.  This will be a safe place for us to connect, share and chat about the study as we go along.   Click here to check it out and to join our group called, Bible Study Clubs-Little Pink Casa and Friends.  

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MM: Marriage Monday {10 Ways to Grow a Godly Marriage}

Can we talk about love and marriage today? 

It is Marriage Monday on the blog and I was excited to share 10 ways to Grow a Godly Marriage with you.  


How do you grow in your marriage? 


Simply, by sowing seeds of love, faith and hope into your husband’s life every day. 


I always like to refer back to the fruits of the Spirit for inspiration.  


Galatians 5: 22-23 tells us: 


But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience,kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

I once heard that a wife is like a flower. 

She is gentle and needs to be loved, provided for and nurtured. 

She must be handled with the utmost care and tenderness. 

If her husband holds her too tight, her petals will crush. 

If her husband holds her too loose, she will wilt too early from no support. 

But, if her husband holds her with dear life.  Then, he places her in a vase and waters her every day, then she will bloom.  

She will light up the room with her beauty.  

For all the world to see. 

– Rosenda Valenzuela 




This week take one of these ten ways and challenge yourself to grow in that area.  


Also, ask your husband to choose one to work on.  How fun will that be?!

I personally will work on praying for my husband and we will work on reading the Bible together.  

Which one will you choose?  




Did you know that I have many other resources for marriage enrichment? 

Here are some topics that you can glean from on the blog: 

Keeping God the Power Source in Your Marriage

Speaking Life Over Your Marriage 

A Couple that Prays Together, Stays Together 

Finding Mercy in Your Marriage 

How to Find God’s Will For Your Marriage

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Here’s to a fabulous abundantly over the top blessed week!  
Blessings and Shalom, 



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MM: Marriage Monday {Speaking Life Over Your Marriage}

Does your marriage need a resurrection?  This week on Marriage Monday at the Little Pink Casa, learn how the principle of decree can bring your marriage back to life.  Grab your Bible!  This is gonna be life changing for your marriage.  

be empowered. . . 

No matter where you are on your marriage journey, there comes a time when the sizzle may begin to fizzle.   Emergency!  Is there a marriage doctor in the house?  We need a resurrection here! 

In the beginning, as newlyweds, we are so full of life and excitement.   We want to give attention to our spouse everyday with intention to build a great marriage.  It’s like walking on the clouds! 

Reality sets in and soon we are influenced by the demands of life like parenting and work which can cause us to get distracted.  Our focus is no longer building a better marriage, but on other things that are constantly fighting for our attention.  

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Did you know your marriage is like a beautiful river?

A river must remain flowing in order for the water to sustain life.
When a body of water stops flowing, it becomes stagnant.  Stagnant water is dead water. 
Nothing can live in dead water.  The fish die.  The plants can’t survive.  Everything depends on the water source.  Stop a river from flowing and you got disaster.  

Did you know what you focus on becomes your habit? 

Focusing on building a living marriage is found only in Jesus.   He’s the only One who can give you the living water to keep your marriage flowing.  

Now on the last day, the great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out, saying, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. Whoever believes in me, as Scripture has said, rivers of living water will flow from within them.   John 7: 37-38 

But whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”  John 4: 14

Don’t complicate this ladies.  The focus is clear and simple.  

 Jesus said, for his yoke is easy and His burden is light. 

Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. “Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS “For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”  Matthew 11: 28 -30. 

Also, Jesus was bruised, wounded and pierced for your healing.  That includes the healing and restoration of your marriage.  Praise God!  

But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed.  Isaiah 53: 5

So how do you resurrect your marriage and keep your marriage alive? 

1. Decree

Job 22:28 says, “You will also decree a thing, and it will be established for you.  

A decree is an official order issued by a legal authority.   In Jesus Name you have the legal authority to order your marriage to get aligned with the Word of God!  You must decree life over your marriage.  No matter what the situation looks like, speak life!  

Jesus says, “The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly”.   John 10:10 

James 1: 21 says, “Receive with meekness the engrafted Word which is able to save your souls. 

2. Store up the Word of God in your heart.

As the little squirrel stores up nuts in preparation for a long winter.  You must store up the Word of God in your heart and be ready at all times.  

Proclaim the Word of God over your marriage. 
-That your house shall serve the Lord.  

Proclaim healing over your marriage.  
-That God is working a miracle over you and your spouse. 

Declare life over your marriage! 
Your marriage shall live and not die, says the Lord!  

I will not die but live, and will proclaim what the LORD has done.  Psalm 118: 17 

Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me will live, even though they die; and everyone who lives and believes in Me will never die.  John 11:25-26

Have faith my friend and take courage.  

Be empowered today to pray and decree life over your marriage.  

It’s never too late and it’s never too early!  

I hope you have been encouraged by today’s devotional.  If you would like prayer for your marriage or anything, please email me here for my husband and I would love to pray for you.   

Also, if you have been empowered by today’s teaching, please comment below and let me know what you think? 

What are some other marriage topics you’d like to see on the blog? 

What can I write about that will help you? 

Simply, comment below or email me here and consider it done!   I read all the responses.  


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MM: Marriage Monday {How to Find God’s Will For Your Marriage}

When Ruben and I were planning our future we saw it clearly, but sadly we were not seeing what God was seeing for us. 

Our ambitions were selfish and methodical. 

Like many, we had a plan. 

We were on a road to becoming elementary school teachers. My husband was specializing in Bilingual education and I was specializing in Early childhood and were already selected for the Teacher Preparation Block Program at Arizona State University. 

Those days” are what we called our Hell Days, because deep down we were running away from what the Lord had called us to do.

Ruben and I worked so hard during long nights of writing reports only to never sleep then go to work and do it all over again. Some weeks went by where we never slept, and when we did, it was hibernation season for the both of us.

At this time, we were newlyweds, married only a few months.  As semesters went on, the pressure on our shoulders weighed heavy. 

We tried to enjoy our new marriage, but college took priority. We weren’t going to church at this time.  There was no time.  We were doing nothing for the Lord’s kingdom purposes, yet we believed that someday we would. . . on our time. 

Our plan was that after we graduated and after we had our teaching careers and after we had our new home, and after we had our new car, then we would work for God and do what He had called us to do. Only then. 

 Someday I’m gonna, someday I will.  

You see, Ruben and I had plans for a future. You know? The American Dream.  We had a “do better than our parents did” mentality.  

We were going to be the first ones in our families to earn a college degree. Our dreams of becoming a living success were going to come true.  That’s what I thought.  

Finally it hit!  

During a night class, a sense of dissatisfaction came over me. We were sitting in groups and as I looked across the room and saw Ruben in his group, I said to myself, “what am I doing here?”.   

For an instant I felt like a fish out of cold water. A feeling of repentance came over me and I jumped up and ran out of the room. As I approached the hall all I could do was fall to the floor and scream. 

Tears were flooding my eyes and Holy Spirit was speaking to me, “YOU both are not following my will for your lives!”. 

As I talked out loud to Jesus, on that university corridor floor, on my knees,  I knew I was desperate. 

It was either going to go two ways.  I would have a nervous break down OR my entire life would be changed. 

I surrendered as I screamed out, “If I’m not suppose to be here, then where am I suppose to be? Show me Lord!”.   

I heard no answer. 

I felt someone grab my arm.  It was Ruben. “What is wrong with you!” he said with this deep look of concern on his face.  I said, “I don’t know”.   He was so confused by my crazy behavior, as he helped me up off the floor and said, “we’re leaving!”. 

When I heard those words, a funny sense of calm peace came over me.   As we slowly walked out of the corridor and walked off the campus I was so relieved.  

Later that evening, deep down, the words of Holy Spirit lingered.  It was the turning point in our marriage.  A time of sweet surrender.  

How many times do we surrender our marriage to God’s will?  

Over and over again.  

God’s will for marriage is perfect.  

I have realized the Lord does have a plan and purpose for the marriage covenant. 

It’s a beautiful plan.  An expressive plan of His craftsmanship.  

Two becoming one flesh for His kingdom purposes. 

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 tells us:  

Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor.  For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.  Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone?  And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart.

A powerful thing you can do as a married couple is surrender your will to the Lord! 

Ask God what He wants you to do together.   Become a “Power Couple” and say “Here we are Lord, not our will, but YOUR will be done in our marriage”.  

Make time to follow His will today.  

Don’t allow the foolish things of this world to take priority over following God’s will for your life.  It’s not worth it.  

Surrender your marriage to Jesus, His way is perfect. 

Blessings and Shalom, 






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