MM: Marriage Monday {How to Love Your Husband in Difficult Times}

This week on Marriage Monday at the Little Pink Casa, learn how to love your husband in difficult times.  Grab your Bible!  This is going to be life changing for your marriage! 

It’s an early fall Monday morning.   I’m sitting here with my coffee.  Peering out the back kitchen window with devotional in hand.  

I’m thinking . . . how wonderful it is that I can sit here for a peaceful moment.  A time to gather my thoughts.  A time to be thankful.  I open my Bible to 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 and read, 

“Love is patient and kind, not jealous, not boastful,
not proud, rude or selfish, not easily angered,
and it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not gloat over other people’s sins
but takes its delight in the truth.
Love always bears up, always trusts,
always hopes, always endures.”

This weekend, my husband Ruben preached a message for our home fellowship about 1 Corinthians 13.  

Love.  

We are mostly familiar with these verses, aren’t we?  Sometimes all too familiar.  We can take for granted what these verses truly mean when it comes to the marriage relationship.   Something that is so familiar can become overlooked.   

You can show your husband a zillion ways how you love him when times are great.   That’s the easy part.  


However, the true test, is loving your husband when life is hard or when you don’t feel like it.   When you don’t feel patient or kind.  When you want to bring up your husband’s past mistakes in order to win an argument.  When your pride wants to take over.  Come on, be honest.  You’ve been there before.  Maybe you are there right now? 

How do you love your husband during the best and worst of times?  

When you may not feel like it?  

Simply, by remembering that your husband is a blessing.  

When I start to remember why I love my husband and why he is such a blessing to me, my heart changes.   I melt.    I remember that loving my husband is not based on my feelings.  Feelings and emotions are unstable.  They are self-motivated and based on circumstances.  

Romans 8:15 says, For those who are according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who are according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit.”

Loving your husband is a decision to love him with God’s unconditional love.  Also, it is a love initiated by the Spirit of God.  That can only be done by the power of the Holy Spirit within you.   You can not do it on your own.  

In other words, choose to love your husband no matter what comes your way.  There’s no escape plan if the relationship gets too hard or you lose that loving feeling.  Marriage is for life.  A strong biblical marriage can not be like the wind, blowing here and there, yet it must remain built on the solid rock, Jesus.  When built on a firm foundation, no matter what storms come your way, you both can stand strong together.  

During the most difficult times,  your husband needs your love the most.  As a wife, you can choose to love your husband by showing him kindness, forgiveness, and also releasing him from past offenses.    God loves us and forgives us no matter what we’ve done.   In order to be forgiven by God, the Bible says we need to forgive others their trespasses also (Matthew 6:15).    

Praying for your husband during difficult times is also a way to extend love toward him.  It’s been said that a praying wife is more valuable than gold.  Who else will pray for your husband?  It is a high calling and honor to go to the Father and intercede for your husband.  Some things you can pray over him are God’s will for his life, protection and blessings.  

Have you thought about why your husband is a blessing to you and your family lately? 
When we start to count our blessings and be grateful, everything changes.  The way you see your husband changes.  You start to see him through God’s eyes.  God’s way.  


My husband is a blessing to me because . . . 

He knows me.  He takes me on coffee dates where I can enjoy the biggest lattes ever! 



He makes me laugh.  I love his big contagious smile!  

He’s fun to be around.  He’s like grease lightening! 

He loves me a bushel and a peck and a hug around the neck.  Even when I don’t deserve it.


Why is your husband a blessing to you?  
What are your reasons?  Now it’s your turn.  Make a list and write a little note telling your husband why he’s a blessing to you.  Get crazy, fun or creative.  

It may be a challenge to love your husband during difficult times, but your husband truly is a gift from God.   Take time to share your list with your husband this week.  He’ll feel like he’s on top of the world!  

Blessings and Shalom


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